Marriage is one of the most important institutions in Islam. In fact, a Muslim is considered to have completed half of his or her Islam upon getting married. A marriage in Islam is more than a paper contract. It is a holy communion in which both the husband and the wife take on major responsibilities that they ignore at their peril. The concept of marriage enjoys a high place in Islam, and all Muslims should be aware of its importance. Some key aspects of marriage include:
- Encouragement – In order to avoid the temptation of pre-marital sex, Muslims are encouraged to marry once they reach the proper age. In Surah Al Nur (chapter 24), verse 32 of the Qur’an, Allah says: “Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female. If they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace, for Allah encompasses all, and He knows all things.”
- Dowry – the groom must pay a dowry, or mahr, to his potential bride for the marriage to be valid. Islam forbids the practise widespread in the sub-continent, in which the bride’s family pays a dowry to the husband.”
- Permission – a woman’s permission must be sought before a marriage can be validated. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “A previously married woman should not be married without being consulted, and a virgin should not be married without asking her permission……contd.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6455).
- Responsibility – Islam recognises differences between men and women. In a marriage, they are equal in Allah’s sight but have different roles to play. It is the man’s responsibility to provide financial care for his entire family, while the women’s main role is to raise their children in an Islamic manner. The husband is rewarded for his kind treatment of his wife and children.
Marriage in New Zealand
- Registering a MarriageAt your wedding, you will sign two copies of a form called ‘Copy of Particulars of Marriage’. One copy will be returned by the marriage celebrant to the Registrar of Marriages who issued your marriage licence so that the marriage can be registered. The other copy will be given to you as a record of your marriage.
- Marriage CertificatesAfter your marriage you may need a formal document to confirm the details and legal validity of your marriage. You may use the ‘Copy of Particulars of Marriage’ for this purpose. However, as the ‘Copy of Particulars of Marriage’ is a unique record of the wedding day, with the signatures of the bride and groom on it, many couples prefer to purchase a marriage certificate from Births, Deaths and Marriages for general use. For further information about getting married see the Marriage Guide & FAQ for Births, Deaths & Marriages
Muslim Marriage Celebrants:
Afiff Shah, P: 09-2966786
Fiaz Mohammed Khan, P: 09-2744181
Khalil Ahmed Nadat, Mt Roskill, P: 620 6636, 021 747818
Mohammed Tamiq Hussain, Ph: 263 6257, Mob: 027-2772786
Marriage Celebrant available from South Auckland Muslim Association, Otahuhu, Auckland. P: 09-2766678
Sheikh Mohammed Shafee, contact 027-2044358, email@example.com
For all other area please contact your Islamic Centre
Matrimonial Website: www.nikah.co.nz
Related websites: www.iris.org.nz/marriage.php